Radical Acceptance In Therapy

The ideas of Tara Brach's Radical Acceptance has become a common refrain in my work. I find that people suffer a great deal when they hold onto ideas, beliefs and feelings that are hold-outs from past experiences. Radical Acceptance teaches us that in order to allow new energies, new experiences, new power, new love-- to enter our hearts and souls, we must learn to let go of these negative blocks that keep us closed. When we accept the things we can not change and forgive the people or circumstances that have wronged us in some way, we clear the way for acceptance - the acceptance of love, prosperity, connection, health and happiness.

Radical Acceptance is not passive; it is not apathetic. Radical Acceptance is a pro-active idea that brings acceptance into consciousness. Knowing what you cannot control allows you to actively pay attention the things you can control- your words and your actions. The bringing into consciousness is an important aspect to Radical Acceptance. Our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us is often imbedded in the unconscious. It is taught to us from the day we are conceived. Society, politics, religion, family culture all contribute to our subconscious understanding of ourselves and how we see the world.  Bringing it forward to the conscious mind can be a healing and enlightening experience.

If your are interested in discovering those things that may be blocking you from your true self, it would be my honor to work with you. 

The Courage To Walk Your Own Path

People’s lives are much like paths found in nature. They are drawn over time, often cross and intersect and join with one another.  Anyone walking down a path in the woods will notice other paths that they cross.  Isn’t it natural to ask where does that path lead?   However this road, this trip, like all great adventures is not without its demons, fears, and heavy weights to carry.  Just like there can be no ease without disease, any joy without sadness, there can be no journey without setbacks or delays. 

I see my work as a psychotherapist as a sort of travel companion along these paths, at least for a short time. My encouragement of their own personal journey, where they can find their own rewards, is partially and admittedly selfish. The time sharing the experience brings its own power and its own momentum.  The power someone brings on the journey propels me: someone moves and I am moved, they take a step, I bare witness and I am moved

Is the design of our lives beyond understanding?  Can we fathom the Universe's great design any more than we can fathom Its creations?  We see with eyes that are blocked from the vision that lies beyond –but only partially.  We somehow are allowed to see our potential, but not actually know the process (or path) we should take to get there.  Vision for our own path is a gift that should not be squandered or taken for granted. 

Our lives take many different courses, some marked, many more unmarked. The crossings are no accident.  Do not think in terms of coincidences.  The Universe provides the opportunity for us to meet and we affect each other forever.  Those who have the vision to see the opportunities and the courage to seize them will experience great joy that life has to offer.  Those that cannot or will not see those opportunities, or worse, fear to act on them, will never be happy and will live diminished lives.  Each one of our lives is a challenge that The Universe presents to us and if we are willing to take the challenge our rewards will be great.

It is my most sincere belief, coming from the deepest part of my soul, that this great journey and the courage it takes to travel it, will reward us with the gift of self, the gift of wholeness and the gift of truth.  What more can we mere mortals ask?

It would be my honor to  help you on your own journey. Please contact me if you seek counsel on "your road less travelled."